What is a divorce?
A divorce is the legal end to a marriage, with either party or jointly able to make the application for divorce.
There are many reasons why people request a divorce. While each situation is different and has its own set of circumstances, some reasons are more common than others.
The most common reasons for divorce are:
Marrying for the wrong reasons
Marrying for money, marrying because of peer or family pressure, marrying because you’re getting older – the reasons are endless. Sometimes the expectation that you and your partner should marry because you’ve been a couple for so long can outweigh the reasons you shouldn’t. Often in situations like these, the relationship problems are there from the beginning.
Many marriages hit a rough patch because one or both individuals in the relationship aren’t free to be themselves. Although you may be married, it’s just as important to have your own interests, hobbies and friends outside the relationship. Once the ability to do things without your partner is lost, resentment can start to manifest.
Lack of commitment
Commitment in a marriage relates to communication, spending time together, doing things for each other and supporting each other. Once a lack of commitment – from one or both parties – is established and neither person is willing to work at the marriage, the relationship can deteriorate.
Cheating plays a large role in a relationship split. While some couples find their way through infidelity, many can’t – which ultimately leads to a break-up. Infidelity is often associated with loss of love, inability to trust and growing apart.
Age is a significant factor in marriage success rates. Couples who marry too young are often not mature enough to fully support each other through a marriage – financially, emotionally and mentally.
Abusive behaviour in a marriage can be caused by a number of factors. Abuse can be spurred by jealousy, immaturity, alcohol or other addictions, a personality trait or mental illness. Whatever the reason behind the behaviour, having an abusive partner – whether directed at the spouse or children – is a clear catalyst for a couple separating.
Generally speaking, it’s not a lack of finances that causes a break-up, but a lack of a financial connection and understanding. When it comes to finances, divorce often occurs when partners are opposites, for example one is a spender and one is a saver. Conflicts over money often result in a break-up, simply because many couples find it very hard to compromise and ending the marriage seems like the only logical conclusion.